tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37096942.post9096767105666016135..comments2021-05-03T18:01:52.405-04:00Comments on The Hussies: Sex is Natural, Sex is Fun...Sally Painterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05591161506655566078noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37096942.post-27980862343730242522008-05-12T01:28:00.000-04:002008-05-12T01:28:00.000-04:00You know, it's okay too to choose stories where t...You know, it's okay too to choose stories where they don't depict sex and "close the bedroom door". When I read books where I know there won't be actual sex scenes, I just pretend there *are*. No big deal.<BR/><BR/>I don't want to be called names because I read and write stories with some sex in them, just as I wouldn't call someone names because they don't read or write those same stories.<BR/><BR/>It's just tastes. We *are* all different and everyone is allowed his/her opinion eh.<BR/><BR/>It's okay to want it, not want it, not care about either way.<BR/><BR/>I look at stuff like Myanmar and that Austrian monstrous rapist/father, and suddenly, sexual content (or lack thereof) in books just isn't all that important anymore.Humans. Cats. Boat.https://www.blogger.com/profile/05048778236417496109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37096942.post-87339405211533636242008-05-11T21:33:00.000-04:002008-05-11T21:33:00.000-04:00Everyone has touched on everything I would have sa...Everyone has touched on everything I would have said but there is one thing that bugs me that no one else has mentioned. Why is it so unacceptable to have graphic sex scenes in a book but acceptable to have a graphic murder scene? Explain to me why slicing and dicing someone up is okay? Why is bringing someone you love pleasure not okay? <BR/>It's a battle we'll never win and one I'm sick of fighting. In the words of my kids; 'Here's some wood. Build yourself a bridge and get over it!'Rachel.Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07790145133420606820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37096942.post-61312044265938244272008-05-11T21:10:00.000-04:002008-05-11T21:10:00.000-04:00The reason such a wide variety of genre and sub-ge...The reason such a wide variety of genre and sub-genre exist is because people are diverse. We all have different likes and dislikes. Some romance readers are okay with having the bedroom door slammed in their face and being left out when things get intimate between the hero and heroine. Others want the door open so they can share in the joy of the characters’ love. Some readers don't want the romance at all but want pure sex. Different strokes for different folks.<BR/><BR/>IMHO, as with all parents, watching the kids learn and explore can be upsetting. I believe there's a bit of jealousy over the ability for the kids to be more open, have more fun and experiment. We have more freedom to be sexual beings. And I totally agree with you, Ci. If we all follow the same old accepted formula the reader is going to wind up BORED to tears! Heck, if everyone toed the line we’d all still be sleeping alone in single beds and making love would be something dirty to be kept in the dark. <BR/><BR/>Cut the stifling apron strings, mom and dad. It’s time to let us grow. We know you’ve had sex otherwise we wouldn’t be here. It’s a big part of who we are, and we want to know about it. Here’s some psychology 101, dear parents. The more you try to censor, control and suppress freedom of expression the more attractive pushing against those boundaries becomes. <BR/><BR/>Sex is a natural, good and fun! Those brave, bold authors who explore new areas—delve into subjects some consider taboo—they are pioneers. They help us learn about ourselves and others. Exploring the possibilities of human sexuality allows us all to grow and have a hell of a lot more fun! <BR/><BR/>Personally, I detest nothing more than reading a book, being there as the sexual tension grows between a couple, experiencing every aspect of their building relationship, but then I’m kept out of the bedroom and the most intimate and loving part of their bonding. I don't want the bedroom door merely opened, I want it ripped from the hinges and all the lights turned on. Sex is a major part of love and relationships. I want to know what lovers are doing to take each other to new heights of pleasure. And don’t toss sex in the story for the sake of sex but let it be a natural progression of love.<BR/><BR/>Stand in your glass house and throw your stones, brand me with the scarlet letter…whatever helps you sleep at night. It takes bold people to keep a society moving forward! I’d much rather be a conduit of progress than a stick in the mud trying to hold everyone back.Nicole Austinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14125715296952131285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37096942.post-89525718930089147682008-05-11T15:56:00.000-04:002008-05-11T15:56:00.000-04:00I agree with Sahara. AMEN!I really think the infig...I agree with Sahara. AMEN!<BR/><BR/>I really think the infighting among romance authors is crazy. Nobody is making anyone read a certain book. If you don't like it, don't read it.N.J.Waltershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18099894498766052188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37096942.post-16681997214017652662008-05-11T11:20:00.000-04:002008-05-11T11:20:00.000-04:00Great post, Ci! I'm with you, sista, 100% and then...Great post, Ci! I'm with you, sista, 100% and then some. <BR/><BR/>Historically, there seems to be so much back-biting and name calling in this industry. <BR/><BR/>It confounds me when authors do this kind of thing and don't support their fellow authors. Aside from being just plain wrong, it comes off sounding small and petty. <BR/><BR/>I don't get it, but I sure am glad I don't have to hang out with anyone like that. I'd be making a fast dust trail in the opposite direction!(g)Sally Painterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05591161506655566078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37096942.post-3683869556559459512008-05-11T10:49:00.000-04:002008-05-11T10:49:00.000-04:00Ciana, I think I love you.Nah, I KNOW I love you.T...Ciana, I think I love you.<BR/><BR/>Nah, I KNOW I love you.<BR/><BR/>That said, the subject just makes me roll my eyes and shrug. It's all about opinions. Mine is: don't like it? Don't read it.<BR/><BR/>I'll <I>live</I>.Humans. Cats. Boat.https://www.blogger.com/profile/05048778236417496109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37096942.post-90720744130326160532008-05-11T09:05:00.000-04:002008-05-11T09:05:00.000-04:00Thanks Dana! I agree completely and am glad to kn...Thanks Dana! I agree completely and am glad to know others share my feelings :)Ciana / Synecahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07299482063801023059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37096942.post-51048342864091027062008-05-11T08:55:00.000-04:002008-05-11T08:55:00.000-04:00You have a really good point. Just because their s...You have a really good point. Just because their sex is couched in pretty words and concisely in two paragraphs doesn't mean that anything is wrong with us for wanting to write and read about something more detailed! <BR/><BR/>I want romance to take me through a relationship, or even a PART of a relationship. Sex is, with some people, definitely a natural progression in a couple's bond. <BR/><BR/>Quite frankly, I read about and write about some really good sex. It's creative, sometimes planned and sometimes spontaneous. It can be warm and loving, or raw and carnal. Either way, it's somehow satisfying. <BR/><BR/>I like reading about other people finding what I have. Whether it's a BDSM erotic romance that mirrors my D/s relationship, or the contemporary romance that mirrors the consideration and love that exists with the Man I love, I <I>want</I> to see something I can relate to, as well as aspire to. Not just the sex, but the emotional and mental bonds that form due to...life! <BR/><BR/>My .02, and a rather large two cents it is, LOL. <BR/><BR/>Blessings,<BR/>DenaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17666415126734044088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37096942.post-62396514208417309222008-05-11T07:28:00.000-04:002008-05-11T07:28:00.000-04:00There is nothing I can add to this...except to say...There is nothing I can add to this...except to say a loud and supportive <B>AMEN</B>, sister!!!!! (An appropriate response for a Sunday!!!)Sahara Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03989470381968542543noreply@blogger.com