So we’ve discussed toys, role-playing, his hot spots and sexual confidence. Now its time to set the mood. Take a walk into the bedroom and have a look around. How does the room look and feel? Come up with one word to describe the ambiance.
What was your word? Sexy? Romantic? Intimate?
If not, then its time to do some redecorating! Your bedroom should be pleasing to the senses and have an intimate feel. Here are some ideas for transforming a drab, boring room into a sensual oasis.
The main focus of a bedroom is, of course, the bed. It should be comfortable and inviting. Consider getting new bedding, something luxurious. When thinking sheets, think high thread count. The higher the better. Get yourself a plush Vellux blanket. I love mine. The unique velvety texture feels incredible against bare skin. Make sure the pillows are comfy and clean. Pillows should be replaced every six months. Also, try adding some lush accent pillows in different shapes, sizes and textures.
Colors should be warm and sensual, from the walls to curtains and bedding to decorative accents. You may finally have to give up the lime green lava lamp for something a bit more practical and sexy.
Fragrances play a very powerful role in enhancing romance and sensuality so the bedroom should smell nice. Skip the overly heavy scents and go for light aromas provided by oil diffusers, candles or scented sachets. Occasionally bring in a vase of fresh, fragrant flowers. Cinnamon is an aphrodisiac. Vanilla is familiar, relaxing and welcoming. Peppermint oil is invigorating. Jasmine is sweet and soothing. Gardenia, sandalwood, rose also are sensually seductive scents.
Change the mood of the room by toning down the lighting. Swap out all those 100-watt white bulbs for a lower wattage or pink-toned variety. Set the tone with a small stereo and some sexy music that you both enjoy set to play softly in the background.
For a quick and inexpensive makeover, try a new throw on the bed with coordinating curtains and add a few sensual accent items like scented candles. You can make small changes to freshen things up as seasons change. If you can do so safely without burning the house down, try draping a colored scarf over the lampshade to create a more intimate feel.
Next, open up the nightstand drawer. What’s in there? A collection of miscellaneous junk that’s accumulated over time? It shouldn't be. Here are essentials that should be in your nightstand.
• Sex toys you both enjoy (and fresh batteries)
• A blindfold
• Erotic reading material (Try reading sexy scenes aloud to each other)
• Lube and massage oil (If using condoms choose water-based products)
• Other toys to suit your tastes (A feather, silk scarves, maybe a set of restraints—whatever turns you on.)
Oh, and one of the most important things. Get the TV out of the bedroom! When in the bedroom, you want his attention on you, not the game.
A few minor adjustments can turn a dull bedroom into a passionate retreat. The most important thing to remember is do what feels right. Go with the fabrics, textures, colors, sounds and scents that tune you in and turn you on.
