Sunday, September 30, 2007

Always on Sunday ... Ciana and Alpha Males

Well, as you know, I’m a sucker for an Alpha Male with a heart. Show me a man with those traits, toss in a sense of humor, the ability to not take things too seriously and a talented musician and I’m in 7th heaven.

And it just so happens that I know a man who fits the bill, and being a generous Hussy by nature, thought I’d share a little about this very special man with you.

Meet Jesus.

A man who’s “fun on wheels” (Literally) , not serious very often (but when the occasion demands can stand toe-to-toe with the best philosopher), would take a bullet for any of his friends and give his last breath for his children or family. In fact, his biggest passion is for his children, followed by his music. Trust me, when he picks up a guitar he can send you to heaven. And those hands are just as magical touching things other than a guitar J

And ladies, this is a man who doesn’t have to pretend to be an alpha male. Trust me, he’s the real deal and in an oh-so-delightful-and-sexy way. If you ask him what makes a woman sexy to him, he’ll tell you there are so many things that make a woman sexy it’s hard to name them all. Or in his words:

“..Ci, you know I could go on all day about the sexiness of your species … from the most minute details, like the way you smell and the noises you make during love making and/o r passionate animal sex … down to your fingers (I find a woman’s hands sexy) and your necks … there are just too many things about women that make them yummy.

So what does it for Jesus and what kind of woman will be lucky enough to entice this alpha male?

The most important thing to him is a submissive woman. Now we’re not talking about a weak, needy or insecure woman. Women who allow themselves to be abused emotionally or physically and think they deserve no better have no place in the life of this alpha male.

But a woman who knows what an alpha male likes and lets that man be strong and in charge, gets his motor reved. Any baby, when his motor is reved, well all I can say is Hot Dayum!! Jesus says this about what he likes in a woman:

“I like a woman that can let her armor down and feel comfortable and trust me not to hurt her or her feelings. I absolutely love to see a woman “get off”. It’s my all time favorite thing in the world. And, of course, I love to be the cause of it.”

Of course you know that I could NOT let such a delicious man go unnoticed. And yes, he’s quite the inspiration. In fact, the hero of my latest work in progress is modeled after Jesus. (And yes, I am having such a wonderful time writing this book! Of course, I do keep plenty of ice and a fan on hand just in case of overheating!!)

I asked Jesus if he could give me his best “sweet nothing” line that he’d whisper in a lover’s ear, but being the unique man he is he reminded me that “ Now Ci, you know I can’t do that. I’m a very spontaneous guy and I never use “lines” on a woman. It cheapens the experience and I’d never want a woman to think “boy if I had a nickel for every time I heard that!”. I don’t want to be lumped into a handful of other general/standard experiences that will soon be forgotten or melded.”
No danger of that, Jesus. I can vow that you’re a man that will never be forgotten. Dreamed and fantasized about. You bet’cha. But forgotten? Nope, that won’t happen.

My thanks to Jesus for agreeing to let me share a little about him with you. Jesus, if you want to whisper a sweet nothing in my ear, I promise not to blab!!

If you want to see more of Jesus, visit his MySpace page at (insert url here). This is Ciana wishing you a glorious day! Until next time remember, life is the journey, not the destination, so enjoy the trip!!

Saturday, September 29, 2007

Spank That Villain! with Nathalie Gray

October 07

Spankable Factor: 90% - highly redeemable

Welcome to this very first installment of “Spank That Villain”, your monthly (hey, I’ll soon be Empress of the Galaxy in my most excellent silver gogo boots, so I’m a busy Hussy m’kay). In this here column, we’ll pull out our magnifying glasses and inspect, dissect and mull over what makes a good male villain. Male because those are the ones I find attractive, sexy, and worthy of all kinds of naughty fantasies, and yes, including a good fessée (go, my lovelies, look it up in a French/English dictionary, it’s worth it). Each column will end with the Spankable Factor, or, if that particular villains would, after a good spanking, be redeemable.

So for our first spankable villain, I present to you one of the most cunning and Machiavellian anti-heroes in English literature: Steerpike, from the novels and mini-series Gormenghast.

Ah, Steerpike. Don’t be fooled by the humble name. Oh no, for he’s one smart man. Hailing from modest beginnings as kitchen boy, Steerpike rose to fame (or infamy...hard to tell sometimes) through his intelligence and ruthlessness. But there’s more than meets the eye with this little villain. First, he isn’t evil, just very, very driven. Second, he’s learned at a young age to use people, the way he’s been used himself. Tit for tat, I guess is Steerpike’s motto. But ladies, who wouldn’t want some handsome, mysterious young thing sneaking into our room at night and whispering the most decadent things?

Through years of whisperings and backroom dealings, Steerpike went from kitchen boy (slave, in other words) to puppet master. And pulling strings is what this villain likes to do. Strings, ribbons, laces. So what is it that made this character so popular after the novels first came out in the early 1940s, then again in the 1990s with the British mini-series? Is it his cool charm, his shrewdness, his intelligence? Because unlike other spankable villains and notable anti-heroes, Steerpike is no beefcake. Yet this sleek connaisseur of all things sneaky has found his way into the hearts of many a female reader/audience member.

One can’t help but wonder if, after Steerpike fled the kitchen and its barbaric master, the man who found him had helped instead of further abuse him, our handsome young villain wouldn’t have turned out a much better person. We’ll never know. But for now, go and read the Gormenghast series by Mervyn Peake, or if, like me, you prefer visual goodness, then rent this most vivid and mind-twisting of a mini-series.

Spankable Factor: 90%, highly redeemable

Thursday, September 27, 2007

Gettin' Naughty with Nic and Toys

Welcome to the first edition of Getting’ Naughty with Nic. Come on, let your inner hussy out to play. You know you want to!

Stop by every Thursday and check out the latest wicked topic up for discussion. I’ll be delving into anything and everything that may be considered risqué, taboo or socially unacceptable. I am a Hussy, after all. Have something you’d like to discuss or know more about? Just let me know. I’m willing to explore any subject with you.

We’ve come a long way, baby, but in our society, sexual pleasure is still considered by many to be improper, a reason for guilt. I find this to be confounding and unhealthy. Why on earth would indulging in pleasures of the flesh be unacceptable? Our bodies are capable of giving and receiving earth-shattering bliss. I say be a greedy hussy and grab every bit of pleasure you can! Life’s too short to deny yourself. One safe and exciting way to do so is through exploring your body and desires with sex toys.

In the course of writing my books, I do a lot of research. When working on a BDSM story recently, I found some interesting toys. Here are a few that captured my attention.

Ever heard of vampire gloves? Now these are truly wicked. Soft leather gloves with prickly metal points on the fingertips which are supposed to create a ticklish sensation. These are used for sensory play.

I’m not brave enough, or is that crazy enough, to try the latex vac-bed. Oh my! Talk about extreme bondage. The air is vacuumed from between two layers of latex, immobilizing the person inside. There is a hole at the top where a breathing tube can be placed.

This one is called the ass sucker. I used this in the book I was researching, Trip My Switch. This is a remote controlled electronic rimming device on an adhesive butterfly pad. It’s supposed to feel like thousands of tongues.

Here’s another one I used in Trip My Switch, the penis plug. There are so many different designs and possibilities. Some are secured beneath the ridge and snake over the crown to literally plug the slit so the man can not ejaculate. Others are similar to a urethral sound and stimulate the penis from the inside while also preventing climax. I’ve even seen some that vibrate. Wowza!

Play safe and have fun, hussies!

Wednesday, September 26, 2007

Humpin' For Release!

Today is the premiere of my regular Wednesday feature, Humpin' For Release with Ann Wesley Hardin!

Besides being Hump Day, we all know Wednesday is also one of two release days for those smokin' hot stories from Ellora's Cave. The Hussies wanted to provide a small, intimate environment to dish about the new releases, so join us for some humpin' good fun. Even if you're not reading, or releasing, today, say hi!

The Hussies want you!

Mmmm. What do we have here?

Man do these books look yummy. How's a hussy to choose?

Which ones are you buying this week? Why? Have you read this author before, or is she new to you? Did you glom the book this afternoon in one sitting, or is it in your TBR pile?

What attracted you to the story -- the plot, the genre, the totally hawt cover model?

To the authors of the new releases, come on in and jump and shout. This is your day!

Let the humpin' commence!

Tuesday, September 25, 2007

When is being bad sooooooo good?

Why right here on The Hussies Blog. As Sahara likes to say "When we're good, we're good. When we're bad, we're better."

Well, we're getting better all the time, with lots of treats for you. Be sure to visit us on Mondays for Surviving Monday with Sahara Kelly. No one better to tell you how to get through the day with your Hussy style in tact that our own Sahara!

Every other Tuesday we're treat you to Hussy Charm School with Mary Winter. Hold onto your hats (or should I say knickers) and get ready to be charmed and learn to charm.

Wednesdays be sure to visit us for an exciting new feature: Humpin'Hussies with Ann Wesley Hardin. Each week, Ann will be listing the exciting new releases from Ellora's Cave and dishing with you about the books.

On Thursday wear something cool because you'll Be Getting Naughty With Nic. Yes, Nicole Austin will be here to show you getting naughty Hussy-style.

Saturday we'll be putting some KaPow into your weekend when we bring you Smack that Villian! with Nathalie Gray.

And on Sunday, Sally Painter and Ciana Stone team up with one of our Hunks to bring you She Said, He Said, The Hussies and the Hunk answer all your questions about love, romance and sex.

So grab your coffee, tea (or if you're a delicious hunk) me - and stop on by.

And remember, your inner hussy just loves to come out and play!

Cheers from....
The Hussies
Sally, Sahara, Nicole, Nathalie, Mary, Ann and Ciana

Sunday, September 23, 2007

She Said, He Said - Cowboy style

Howdy! And welcome to this week's She Said, He Said, The Hussies and the Hunk answer all your questions about love, romance and sex.

Our resident hunk is on holiday this week, so we enlisted the help of someone familiar to all our Hussy sisters, our good buddy Chase.

For those of you who don't know Chase, he's been making hearts flutter and libedos race for some time on our chats. One of the original Naughty Men, Chase graciously agreed to fill in (well, after I roped him up and tied him down). And since he's a real team player, this week Sally and I are double teaming him. Consider it a test by fire, Chase.

This week our question comes from way up north in Chicago where Exit Only asks:

Hi. I'm a thirty-smething divorcee who has been involved with a nice man for six months. Up until recently our sex has been pretty traditional. Nothing kinky or strange, which suits me since I'm not the most adventurous person. But last weekend we got a little drunk and I dropped my glass on the floor. When I got down to clean up the mess, my boyfriend got all hot and bothered and pulled my panties down. At first I thought it was fun, his hands all over me, getting me hot. But then he asked if we could have anal sex and I completely froze. Call me old fashioned but I never let my ex-husband do that and don't know that I can let my boyfriend. Is something wrong with me or him? What is it about the ass that gets mens motors running anyway?

Ciana: Well cut me off and call me shorty, I'm a bit hesitant to tackle this particular question. Anal sex is one of those activities that falls under the "optional" category. If you're into it, groovy. If you're not, then paint exit only on your butt and just tell your fella that the rear entry stays locked. However, if you've never tried, how do you know you won't like it? I'm not advocating that you do something that you don't want to do, just asking.

As to why it gets a man's motor running, I think I'll turn that particular aspect over to Chase. Chase?

Chase: Well... well first of all, throw me to the wolves Ci. You couldn't have started me off with something a little easier? Okay, here goes. The ass. Yeah, we like it. Everything about it. It's round and full and squeezable and the cleft that divides it ultimately leads to heaven. At least for a man. And I guess anal sex is a little of the forbidden fruit. When a woman surrenders that part of herself to you, it makes you feel like you're not just some run of the mill Joe, that you're someone special.

Now as to you not wanting to explore that particular activity, darlin' that's entirely up to you. If the idea turns you on, then maybe start with something a bit milder than actual sex. You'd be surprised what a man can do with his hands. But if it gives you as Ci likes to say, the creeping willies, then just be honest. We fellas do appreciate honesty. Well, most of the time. Just as long as you keep saying "oh baby, you're the best."

And that's it from me. Turning it over to Ms. Sally. And by the way Sally, I like that blue dress with the low neckline. Very stimulating. Just a compliment Mr. Sally. No need to send a posse after me.

Sally: Of course, here I am bringing up the rear. First of all, thank you, cowboy, for the compliment. You must have eagle eyes. (g) As for our poor in-arears gal. Listen, hussy, there are three things in life that are certain, death, taxes and men wanting to explore your back door. It's only sex, you know and guys are just as adventurous in that corral as anything else, otherwise they'd still be sitting in caves clicking flint rocks together.

Your lover’s request falls under the heading of trust and curiosity on your part. If you don't want to even entertain the idea, that's fine, but don't you think you owe your relationship at least a discussion, not during sex, but some other time, like watching TV or taking a walk.

Don’t just make a snap decision based on fear and ignorance---get educated. There’s plenty of info out there by women who are just as daring as your manlove. So go into the discussion knowing your topic or better yet, surf together and share reading about it with your man. That could be very exciting for both of you. Maybe it's a first time for him. Did you even ask?

Whatever you decide, at least you’ve shown him you're willing to contemplate new ideas and are open to possibilities. After all, it’s a relationship. Right? And we do want to be considerate lovers.

Besides, you might discover women who’ve found it an erotic pleasure zone instead of just a service entrance for your man.

I’m all for doing only what you want and feel comfy doing in a relationship, but I also believe most people make decisions from a place of fear. If you can abandon fear and have an open mind, you might find a new aspect in your relationship and watch it grow even stronger.

As Chase said, it’s an act that makes a man feel special. Remember the cave? Well, in some ways we haven’t evolved that far from it.

Saturday, September 22, 2007

Only Two Types of Men?

I read an article that divides men into two categories. Now, it states one man basically sets you on fire and the other one takes a while to warm up to.

What do you think? Two Types of Men

Is it possible to have both types rolled into one?

Friday, September 21, 2007

A puzzle for fun!

For the hussy in you. Our Official Hunk Puzzled.Click to Mix and Solve

Tuesday, September 18, 2007

Story Ideas and How Writers Come Up With Them

I'm always asked where an idea came for a certain book and recently was asked that quesion about the first Hussies book which is titled, Danu, The Beginning. I thought this might be a good place to share since I found a few humorous parts of the legend.

Our character, Danu, the central figure in all of The Hussies books, was inspired by the myth/legend of Danu, the goddess of Ireland. Now the name is the only thing that resembles Irish Danu and her people who were called the Danu. Unlike history/myth, our Danu hails from Scotland, not Ireland. So I've plucked a few things from history to use in creating the character, Danu. Poetic license rules!

With this as the background, I decided to do a little more research into the legend and see if there were other tidbits that might spark more story ideas. And, I found the tale of how The Danu were invaded by a powerful people called the The Fir Bolg. So now I had the premise for my story - Scottish Danu would be fighting an invading force into her fictional world in ancient Scotland only the ones she must fight are Dragon People. Why Scotland? Two reasons, I didn't want people thinking I was writing about the Irish legend and I've spent years researching and studying Scotland and didn't want it all to go to waste. So we created a fictional Scottish Castle on a fictional Scottish Island.

One tidbit I won't be using, but thought you would get a chuckle out of as I did follows:

The first people to settle Ireland happened during the biblical GREAT FLOOD as in Noah. A woman named Cessair is portrayed as the granddaughter of Noah, and hey, who knows, maybe she was. Anyway, Noah gave her the scoop that rain was coming and a huge flood. She selected Ireland as the most likely place not to flood since no one had ever lived there and it was not filled with evil or sin. Virgin land.

So she arrived about 40 days before the big rain in a fleet of 3 ships only 1 ship managed to come ashore at Corca Dhuibhne So out of 3 ships, only 50 women and 3 men survived. It was said that Noah refused passage to the three men who had survived because he felt they were robbers. One of those men was his son, Bith, who was also Cessair's father.

Well, after they arrived in Ireland, they did the math and divided the women into 3 groups each taking 1 man. Now, these must have been some real warrior women because two of the men died in no time and the one guy left, Bith.

Seems Ole bith got a bit upset over the prospect of servicing 50 women. So what was his solution? He fled. This was the part that truly cracked me up. Like I said, they must have been some very demanding and daunting women to make a man run away. LOL.

But it gets better! There's another story about one of the 3 men who landed with the group. One that died and that's how he died.

This man was the pilot of the ship, Ard Ladrann, and is said to be the first man to die in Ireland before the flood. And how did he die?

He died of excess - Too much sex! Now wait... it gets better because there's another version of how he died.

It is said he died from a shaft of an oar penetrating his arse.

Was that because he was running away, too? Who knows what is true about any of this tale, but it was too funny not to share with ya'll.


Sunday, September 16, 2007

She Said, He Said

The Hussies & The Hunk Answer All Your Questions
About Love, Romance and Sex

We're back! And this week we have a question from a gentleman in the great state of Texas who writes:

"My wife is constantly reading all these racy romance novels. The kind with a lot of graphic sex. I was curious and got her laptop and found one of them. It was written by you, Ciana, and titled Molding Clay. And it had some rather wild sex in it - lots of dominate/submissive stuff. I have to say it really turned me on, and I figured it must turn my wife on since she was reading it. I thought about maybe trying some of it on her, but what if it makes her think I've gone round the bend?

Ciana: Well then honey, you just explain that you read it, (after apologizing profusely for invading the sanctity of her laptop) and that it turned you on and what is even more of a turn on is imagining you and her in such a sexual situation. You never know, she just might surprise you and say "bring it on." And really, what have you got to lose by asking?

Scott: I definitely don't think she would think you went "round the bend". There is never any harm in talking. It must turn her on too, so why not surprise her with a little dominate/submissive stuff, start simple. Just buy some mild toys, (fuzzy handcuffs maybe) wrap them up and give them to her as a gift one night. If she says she would rather not, you throw the toys away, no harm done. But if you are both new to it and both interested, then you can both explore and discover all the various exciting aspects of domination and submission. Best of luck.

Hope that helps our guy in Texas :) Oh and say thanks to the wife for buying my book. Now, I have a question for Scott:

Ciana: Can a man respect a woman who sends him these kinds of questions??

Scott: A real man most definitely can. You know the saying, the only stupid question is the one unasked. Everybody has a question about something.

Woo hoo!! A real man. The perfect man to be the Official Hunk for The Hussies. Thanks again, Scott. Can't wait to see the question you and Sally face next week when once again, we bring our readers She Said, He Said, the Hussies and the Hunk answer all your questions about love, romance and sex.

Have a hussicilious day!

Ciana and Scott

Friday, September 14, 2007

We Are Hussies, Hear Us Roar ....

Or stand up and cheer. Sally and I are excited and honored to announce that our Hussy numbers have grown. Four fabulous writers of erotic romance have joined The Hussies, and will be writing books in The Hussies series.We're pleased a punch to have these fantastic writers as sister Hussies, and know you will be just as delighted. And who are they, you ask? Well, watch the video and find out :)

Video by Syneca/Original Syn - copyright 2007 The Hussies - All Rights Reserved

WELCOME HUSSIES! We're honored and excited to have you with us!!

Ya'll come join The Hussies tomorrow on the Ellora's Cave Chat on Yahoo and let your inner Hussy out to play. There'll be contests, cool prizes and lots of Hussy fun.

Have a hussicilious day :)

Wednesday, September 12, 2007

If you like them big and Greek

Then George is the man for you. A competitive bodybuilder and entrepreneur with his own business, George hit the romance scene this year, and caught my eye.

You could say that at present I'm wooing George. I mean after all, a Hussy is always looking for new Hunks.

Hope your Wednesday is Hunkalicious!

Sunday, September 09, 2007

She Said, He Said

We received the following from Single and Scared in NY:

I am a thirty-eight year old woman who is newly divorced and I'm scared to death about the dating scene. I had three dates with a guy and on the third date he wanted to have sex. I thought I was ready, but when he asked me to strip for him I froze up. I don't exactly have the body of a twenty year old, so why would anyone want to see me undress?

Scott's Answer: If he wanted you to strip its because you turn him on. You might not have the body of a 20-year old, but the one you have is yours, nobody else has it, its an original and maybe that is what turns him on about you. Men are much more visual than women. It turns us on incredibly to watch you undress, shower, get dressed, wear different items. I am sure he does not have the body of a 20-year old either. However, it is a bit awkward to perform in front of someone, I know being a shy person. But I guarantee you, if he asked you to strip, no matter what you do or how you look, it will turn him on. Just for kicks, ask him to do the same for you and see what happens.

Sally's Answer: Froze? Snort. Hell, hussy, I would have left!

If you had a relationship with this guy, sure, I'd agree with Scott--- but stripping is an intimate act that requires a lot of trust between lovers so how can you have that after only 3 dates?

PHEW. That is probably the tackiest first time making love technique I've ever heard of. And any guy making such a request first time is definitely deficient in sensitivity and clearly doesn't have any genuine feelings for you to place you in such an awkward position. What about a little tenderness, caring and compassion from him? A bit of wooing... It shouldn't be about what you can do for him, grilfriend. He should be on his best behavior to please you not making stupid demands for you to strip!

I mean, what kind of guy would ask that of a woman the first time making love to her?

Wait, I know the answer.

The kind used to paying for it! Seriously, hussy, wake up! You don't want to be just one less piece he has to pay for, do you?

I can see it's time for a Hussy Prayer Meeting.

Look, just because you've been out of the game for a while doesn't mean you have to play by any guy's rules. That part hasn't changed since before you were married and certainly hasn't now that you are divorced. You are the one in control, Hussy babe. Seize that control with a bit of self R-E-S-P-E-C-T and toss this BIG LOOSER out on his arse, making sure the door hits him on the way out, cause that's where his pea-brain resides. What a jerk!

You deserve a genuine caring guy. Do NOT settle for a creep like this. Find a guy who really cares about you as a person and then when you develop a loving/caring relationship with him, strip your hussy heart out. It will be fun then!

If you'd like to ask a question of the Hunk and the Hussies, email us at If you'd like to email Scott, you can reach him via

Have a great Sunday and a fun week!


Mark your Calendar

It is HUSSY TIME and this one will be held Saturday, September 15 on the EC CHAT list.

Oh yes, we are going to have FUN! Excerpts, news about upcoming releases, games, and wonderful prizes, of course!

We also have a BIG announcement to make and are so excited we are having to bite our hussy tongues to keep from shouting out!

Come join us and have some fun Hussy Time!

Friday, September 07, 2007

Speaking Southern

Well, you all know that Sally and I are good ol' Southern gals, so I thought I'd share a little of our Southern heritage by filling ya'll in on our brand of English.

Anyone who has any that I've omitted, let me know :)

AIM TO- plan to do
AIRISH- cold
BIGGITY- vain and overbearing
BITTY BIT- a small amount
CARRY ON- to carry on foolishness
CLODHOPPER- heavy work shoes or large shoes
CHUNK- throw
COW LICK- hair standing out on one's head
DIRECTLY- in a little while, or a couple of weeks
DIXIE- Southern States of the
FALLING OUT- disagreement
FEISTY- being frisky
FIXING TO- about to
HEY- hello
HOLD YOUR HORSES- (be patient)
HONEY- affectionate term
LAID UP- ill, hurt, unable to work
MUCH OBLIGED- thank you; hope to return the favor
PIDDLE- waste time, doing nothing
PLAYING POSSUM- playing dead
RECKON- think or supose so
SHINDIG- dance or celebration
WHITE LIGHTNING- moonshine whiskey
WORRY-WART- one who is annoying
YA'LL or Y'ALL (can be spelled both ways)- you all, two or more people

Ya'll have a good day now, hear?

Wednesday, September 05, 2007

These girls need a Hussy Lesson!

OMG! I cannot believe it!!!

What do you think is the #1 graduation gift for girls in Italy?

One gift-smiling girl says it's better than a car that will break down after a couple of years or a holiday (vacation) that is over and then what do you have... ah... memories? No, this gift will last her a lifetime and she is grinning although it is difficult to see her face for the over-sized gift!

Breast enlargement! Okay I can understand if you want to enhance and if there's not much endowment you might feel better to have this done, but pulesee take a look at the size of this gift! I think a back brace will soon be needed.

Hussies unite and let's educate these girls on the true value of self. Lawdy! It makes my Hussy head ache to think this girl believes this is THE GIFT.

Aside from the obvious question - What are these parents teaching their girls about self-worth? there's the real problem question - Where is she going to find clothes to fit? They just don't make a size 2 for a bust like this.

Is it fad? Media brainwashing? Culture fixation? What do you think?

Saturday, September 01, 2007

She Said, He Said

Today we debut a new weekly feature, the She Said, He Said advice column, where the Hussies and our Official Hunk, the oh-so-gorgeous, body-to-die-for and man with a brain that turns us on, the one and only Scott Fleissner.
You've seen him in one of our most popular posters (yes, the one you all have lusted about for months),

and now that Scott has been named the Official Hunk for The Hussies, you're going to be seeing a lot more of him, and get to learn all about him.

She Said, He Said Question from "Not getting any" in NM:
"I am totally into oral sex, but my boyfriend is not. Well, he's into having it done on him, but when it's his turn he makes excuses and even when he does it, he does it really bad. What can I do to make it more appealing for him and teach him how to do it?"

Ciana: He likes it having done on him??? Well, duh! Of course he's into being on the receiving end! And if he's making excuses NOT to indulge, maybe there's a simple reason and I have one sure fire way to test it out. It's called douche. Let's face it, clean is appealing. As to his technique, have you ever bothered to tell him what feels good? Sure it's not rocket science, but every woman has her hot buttons and if you don't tell him what yours are, how's he supposed to know? Let that inner Hussy out, honey. She's not shy about telling her man what feels good.

Scott: The first thing is to talk to him about it. Not in an argumentative or embarrassinge way, just let him know how you feel about the situation, and ask him why he does not like to go down on you. You both should be open and able to talk about what's wrong and find ways to solve the problem. Honestly he might not like to do it, because the aroma down there, on some women, is rather strong. Some men find it a turn off.

Another issue might be control. When he goes down on you, you are calling the shots, some men find this intimidating. When it comes to sex men like to think they know it all and are masters at it. Most times the apposite is true. He might be bad at giving you oral sex because he doesn't enjoy it, most people are better at things they enjoy.

Besides, we don't have one of our own, so sometimes we are completely clueless as to what makes you feel good. Should we rub soft or hard, play with the clit or insert something, spread the lips or not. I am not being chauvinistic, but everyone knows its too easy to bring a guy to orgasm. Women require more attention, skill, and ingenuity to achieve the same result and everyone woman is different. Some coaching is generally very helpful.

I have no trouble telling a woman how I like it, when her mouth is full. I find most women appreciate the tips.

Well, hussies, didn't I tell you. Gorgeous and smart. Are you in lust ... ahem, I mean Love, yet? Stay tuned for next's weeks column when Scott and Sally answer an imporant question for "Single and Scared in NY" about dating and getting naked.

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This is Ciana saying have a great weekend, thanks for visiting, and remember to let your inner Hussy out to play!