Sunday, March 16, 2008

Sex Appeal and Bug Repellant ... what we do to look good

When it comes to trying to look good, we women have tried so many things that to list them would be a monumental task. We've wrapped, zapped, taped, plastered, painted, dyed, bleached, shaved, waxed, pinned, powered, squeezed, bound, plucked, heated, frozen, sweated, pushed, pulled, covered, concealed, enhanced, rearranged, restructured and resurfaced ourselves for centuries.

And when we run out of new ideas - like attaching electrodes to our face and zapping ourselves with electric current to get a firm youthful appearance, we fall back on ancient remedies - like nightingale poop facials or bull semen hair treatments.

We'll do anything and try anything to stay younger looking and more attractive. We spend billions of dollars a year on that quest. And where does it get us in the end? If we're lucky, older. Younger? I think not.

However, as a member of the "not a young chickadee" segment of the population, I can testify that there are things we can do that help us feel better about ourselves and look better when we do dare to take a look in that mirror. And for a lot of us, it's things that make us groan.

1. Exercise. Yes. Like it or not, exercise helps keep us looking better. Let's face it, toned muscles look a hell of a lot better than un-toned. Exercise helps you maintain better posture, stronger bones, more mobility and flexibility and strength. And practiced regularly will get you into those clinging knits with smoother lines than any body shaper undergarment. Plus, it is beneficial to your mental health. It helps reduce or manage stress and makes you feel more positive about yourself. And the better you feel about you, the more you'll project an air of self-confidence that equates in the male mind as sex appeal.

2. Proper diet: Okay, no one likes to starve and I'm not advocating that. But a good balanced diet - a healthy eating lifestyle - can help you not only feel better, but look better because you're putting the right nutrients into your system to support good skin and hair.

3. Attitude: If you think attitude isn't half the battle then think again. I've known a lot of women over the years who had sex appeal out the wazoo. And not because they were drop dead gorgeous. But they had an attitude that said "yeah, I AM that good" that drew men like a bear to honey.

4. Personality: Don't groan. We all know that old cliche - "she's got a GREAT personality" is the way we've all billed our girlfriends to potential dates. But personality counts. Some of the sexiest men I know are not classically handsome. But their personalities make them sizzling hot. The same is true for women. A woman who loves life, smiles likes it's her religion and has a positive, upbeat outlook will get a lot more than a drop-dead beautiful woman who bitches, moans and whines about life.

I like the poem the legendary beauty, Audrey Hepburn read to her children, which was written by the humorist Sam Levenson

For attractive lips,
Speak words of kindness.
For lovely eyes,
Seek out the good in people.
For a slim figure,
Share your food with the hungry.
For beautiful hair,
Let a child run his fingers through it once a day.
For poise,
Walk with the knowledge you’ll never walk alone.
People, even more than things, have to be restored,
renewed, revived, reclaimed and redeemed.
Never throw out anybody.
Remember: if you ever need a helping hand,
you’ll find One at the end of your arm.
As you grow older you will discover that you have two hands.
One for helping yourself, the other for helping others.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides.
The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole, but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives and the passion that she shows.
The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years.

And I love what she said in 1992 when she was asked if she had any personal beauty secrets besides Levinson's philosophical tips: "If I had them," she said, "I'd make a fortune. But I know what helps — health, lots of sleep, lots of fresh air, and a lot of help from Estee Lauder."

This is Ciana, for the Hussies, wishing you a beautiful day. And in the words of Helen Keller: The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen, nor touched ... but are felt in the heart.


Sahara Kelly said...

A wonderful - and true - post, Ci. Thanks for reminding us all where real beauty lies. I would add that Audrey's perfect little black Givenchy dress didn't hurt either.

I can't help thinking of the old adage - "Beauty is only skin deep - ugly goes right to the bone!" LOL


Sally Painter said...

I love the poem. That is so perfect.

I think modern women live such a fast paced life wearing too many hats that few have time to think of self, much less care for self so this is a great reminder to slow down, take a few minutes every day just for you. You deserve it!

mamasand2 said...

Thanks so much for the poem. I just copied it and sent it to my daughters.
I loved Audrey Hepburn, and her movies. She was a true lady.
I'm so glad you reminded me of her.
And Sally, you are 110% right.


Ciana Stone said...

This is a little off topic - but I wanted to announce the winner of the "Fifty Ways to Leave your Lover" contest. And the winner is .... Mamasand2!!

Please email me: to arrange for delivery of your prize. And thanks for playing. You made the game a lot of fun :)


mamasand2 said...

No thanks neccessary. I had a blast playing. I just hope my brain stops throwing those tidbits at me.
Thank you all go very much for the GC.


N.J.Walters said...

Beautiful post, and oh so true. Now if I could only make myself exercise. *g*

Shelley Munro said...

Awesome post, Ciana, and very true.