Humpin' For Release!

Ooooooo la la, it's that time again! Adult treats for your Halloween pleasure. Who needs chocolate when you've got these endorphin poppers at your fingertips?

Which books will you be reading between doorbell rings? What candy will you be sampling as you read? I'm going straight for the KitKats!

Tease Me, Touch Me...Three ways to Howl on Halloween

It's that time of year again when people put on costumes to pretend, just for one night, that they're something they're not. One of my favorite "Halloween" episodes has to be Buffy the Vampire Slayer when Willow dresses up like a ghost and becomes one. Suddenly, she's ghost Willow in a very revealing outfit and learning just how good it is to flaunt it. In the end, when she's live-Willow again, she walking down the street in her outfit completely comfortable in her body. Oz drives by and says "Who is that girl?" He's smitten, and you will be too if you use this holiday for teasing pursuits.

Part of being a Hussy means being comfortable in your own skin. We've kind of talked about that before. However, if you're still on the shy side or want to, just for one night, to be someone you're not, why not throw a private Halloween party? Just you, and your man, a little music, a little costume (and I do mean little), and let your imaginations run wild! Naughty nurse. Sultry Stewardess. Teasing Tour Guide. Sexy Siren. They're all available and waiting for you to strut your Hussy stuff.

Here are some tips:

1) Make it simple...for him. Sure, he might be into it, then again, he might have on that suit and tie from work, and that makes your job of getting him out of it a lot easier. Go ahead and get costumed to the hilt. Makeup. Shoes. The whole nine yards. Let him relax and enjoy the show. He'll be a far more willing participant than if you turned it into a theatrical production.

2) It's okay to laugh. Okay, so some of us aren't born seductresses. We're trying. Really. If you just feel totally silly or something doesn't work quite right. Laugh. It's the best medicine and it will release some of the tension of "getting things right."

3) When in doubt, ditch the costume and just enjoy the moment. So what if your "sexy witch" powers lasted for all of thirty seconds. You're naked. He's naked or almost there. What are you waiting for?

Here's hoping you have a howling good Halloween. Now if you'll excuse me, I'll be in the costume aisle...

Come Fly With Me - if you must...

Some folks simply have to fly on Mondays. I do it myself from time to time. So here’s a few tips for not only surviving Mondays, but surviving the flying experience at the same time.

Do NOT fly before ten am if at all possible. Otherwise, you’ll be lost in a pile of empty Starbucks cups and probably wearing several dollops of cream cheese swiped over your body from those whole-wheat bagels. I like coffee as much as the next guy, but I don’t want to wear anybody’s breakfast. It’s not a good fashion statement for me.

Do NOT make eye contact while waiting at the gate. If you do, you stand a good chance of getting hit on by that tourist from someplace you’ve never heard of, wearing a shirt that should never have seen the light of day and with little or no conversation other than “Hi.” (Guaranteed to slide you out of your undies, right? Sigh.) You might also end up helping a little old lady fasten her stockings. (Okay, this happened to me in Heathrow, so maybe it’s a British thing, but why take the risk?) If you don’t look people in the eye, it makes it easier to push them out of the way and step on their children when your row is announced for boarding.

When finally seated, do NOT ask for liquids that are hot or spillable. Anything other than a bottle of water and turbulence is all but certain. The air gods are watching. They wait for that nice full cup of coffee then - splat. It’s their version of volleyball. Again, wearing food and/or beverages - well, it really doesn’t work, although it might score a tidy four points on Mount Olympus.

Try not to read what’s on the laptop next to you. It’s not polite airtravel etiquette and it’s probably boring as hell anyway, unless he’s writing an erotic romance. Let’s face it, the odds are against that happening. Stick with your own spicy novel and make sure he can’t read your pages. Especially if it’s that guy who hit on you earlier.

And finally - this has to be one of the funniest airline commercials EVER. It’ll keep me laughing through those endless gate changes and delays. Hope it’ll work for you too.

G.... it's nice when he finds it

Yeah, I'm talking about that illusive G-Spot. I've heard women complain that their man couldn't find it with Google maps.

Oh dear, my sincere sympathy ladies. And my sincere "bravo" to those men who have that instinctive "homing beacon" to the G in their lady.

Unbelievably, it isn't just the fellas who are lost in their quest for the Spot. I've talked with women that claim they don't even have one. Like yesterday I was talking with a friend and she swore that it didn't exist. So I asked "well have you ever tried to find it?" I have to say she was a bit aghast at the idea (leading me to believe that maybe the lack of "uumph" in her sex life has as much to do with her as her significant other).

But it also got me to thinking when she asked "just what the hell is a G-Spot"? Hmmm, are there other women out there that don't have a clue about this wonderful area of their anatomy? Just in case, I thought I'd take a little break from the norm and do a quick "history of the g-spot."

First, this term evolved from a discovery in the 1940s by a German gynecologist, Ernst Graffenberg and his American colleague, Robert Dickinson. (Being a Hussy with an odd quirk, I like to call them the earnest dicki team). They discovered what they called a zone of erogenous feeling located along the suburethral surface of the anterior vaginal wall.

In 1950, Graffenberg published an article in the International Journal of Sexology, asserting that this erogenous zone contained erectile tissue, and swelled when massaged and during orgasm. He didn't give the spot a name, but referred to it as the "urethral sponge". He did pinpoint it's location. An area on the front wall of the vagina about a finger length in from the vaginal opening that surrounds the urethra.

Now color it a sign of the times, but Graffenberg's research lay forgotten until the 1980s when two sexologists, Beverly Whipple and John Perry rediscovered that almost all women have an area of sexual sensitivity on the front wall of the vagina. In fact, in their studies, 90-100% of 400 women identified a sensitive area. Eager beavers that they were, Whipple and Perry dug out Graffenberg's old research and renamed the area previous known as the urethral sponge after Graffenberg to the Graffenberg Spot or S-Spot.

Since that time, there's been controversy. Does it really exist? If so then how do I find the darn thing. Well, here's a tip:

It's easier to find and the most sensitive to touch when a woman is already sexually aroused, so women have an easier time locating it during masturbation. But in truth, it's not all that easy for a woman to find her own G-Spot. To make it easier, trying lying on your back with your knees pressed against your chest, or get into a squatting position - or heck, get yourself a sex toy that's designed for G-Spot stimulation. Normally these toys are vibrators or dildoes with curved tips.

The absolute best position for G-spot stimulation during sex is doggie-style or rear entry. When in this position, the head of the penis can press against the G-spot. And if you think about it in terms of evolution, it really makes perfect sense. Aside from humans, all other mammals have sex in this position. So it seems to make sense for it to have evolved to be pleasurable for the female.

However you go about your own "research" - solo or with a partner, rest assured that when you do locate this treasure, you'll think you've struck gold for sure.

And if you're lucky enough to have a partner that's already perfected the technique of stroking your spot just right, well hell woman, why are you wasting time reading this when you could be enjoying a Sunday morning delight. Speaking of which ... time for me to go.

Happy Sunday everyone. This is Ciana for The Hussies saying "G.... life is good. So Enjoy!"

Interview with Cole - Cowboy Sizzlin'

I was lucky to catch up with the man known as ‘Sex in Jeans’ and baby, once you read about him, you’ll know why Scout dubbed him with that title. He is definitely Hot ‘n’ the Saddle and knows how to be that tough cowboy with a gritty edge that only a woman like Scout can soften up.

After demonstrating my roping technique, I decided to tie him up and make him answer some questions with the promise I’d let him go once satisfied. (eg)

Sally: “How does it feel to be called Sex in Jeans? I love that term and Scout really had you pegged.”

Cole: “Well, sugar, a man has to feel complimented by that. I have to say I never expected it, but it definitely got my attention. I don't know if she had me pegged or not, but it didn't do my ego one bit of damage to hear it."

Sally: “Scout's abilities are very different from what you are accustomed to. What do you feel she'd be like without them?”

Cole: “Scout would be Scout no matter what - stubborn, bossy, hard-headed and sexy as hell.”

Sally: “Were you surprised how adept a tracker Scout is? And, tell me about that cave and what almost happened.”

Cole: “Truth be told, I expected Scout to be the best of the best in terms of tracking. After all, she was trained by Jed Windrider and he was a legend. I just didn't expect her to be a woman - or one that damn near set my pants on fire.

And, uh, the cave. Well, let's just say that it was another case of her setting my pants on fire and leave it at that. If I give too much away I just might find myself in the hot tub all alone.”

Sally: “Ray is such a psycho, did you have any idea what you'd be up against in tracking him?”

Cole: “Hell fire, no. But then I didn't think we're end up in some insane battle with a lunatic who'd let an old grudge fester into something evil inside him. If I'd had any idea I'd have gone armed for bear.”

Sally: “It's clear you are entranced by Scout's directness. What other things separate Scott from the other women you've known?”

Cole: “She's both real and magical if that makes sense. Real because she's not into pretense and doesn't put on airs. Magical because she sees and feels things others don't and she's more part of nature than man.”

Sally: “You're a tough guy, but the way you handled that cub showed us you're pretty tender, too. What about Scott makes you feel like this?”

Cole: “The depth of her feelings. Scout's a gal who loves clear down to her bones, with every bit of her heart. She's like one of the animals, wary and not given easy to trust, but once she does, she gives it all she has. I'd like to be the one person in the world who gives back as much as he gets. To let her know that when I say it's forever, she can count on that just as surely as sunrise.”

Sally: What's it like being with cat woman? LOL. I just couldn't resist. Seriously, though how do you cope?

Cole: “LOL. It's damn disconcerting at times, but also pretty amazing. I'm not keen on her claws, but it's an incredible feeling to curl up in front of a fire with a lioness purring against you. If you think a warm lap cat's purr can send you into relaxing, try it with a lion. And there is a lot to be said about animal passion, you know.”

Sally: “How did you gain new abilities? Do you think they were dormant and Scout just brought them out in you?”

Cole: “I don't have a clue. Maybe it's like my sister-in-law Anna says, and those abilities were always there, waiting for someone to find the on switch. I guess that's what Scout did. But then, flipping my switches and pushing my buttons is one of her talents.”

Sally: “Name one thing about Scout that you believe will never change.”

Cole: “She's never stop loving me and she'll never be civilized. Not that I'm complaining. It might be untamed, wild and unpredictable, but it's for sure that life with Scout will never be dull. And that's fine with me. Long as she still thinks I'm Sex in Jeans, I'm a happy man.”

Mystery of Standing Stones and Henges

Like haunting faceless statues, Standing Stones rise up from the ground all across Europe and some of the most impressive circles can be found in Scotland.

One of the most fascinating circle of stones is the Ring of Brodgar or Brogar located on the Orkney Islands in the West Mainland parish of Stenness. Originally there were 60 majestic standing stones, but today there are only 27 stones remaining. These stones are part of a henge monument and is surrounding by a ditch and bank.

There were two entrances. One in the NW and the other in the SE. The circle diameter is 120 yards and the tallest stone remaining today is 15 ft tall. The dating of this site is around 2500 BC which places it in the Early Bronze Age. Four of these standing stones have carvings on them. One is a runes inscription that reads as the name Bjorn, which is speculated to have been a Norse visitor. The others are a cross, anvil and an ogham inscription. It is clear the carvings were done many many years after the stones were erected.

Why is this such a significant site? Just the sheer volume of rock excavated from the ditch makes it amazing. A ditch quarried out of solid sandstone some 12 feet deep and 30 ft wide. This is also a Henge monument. Henges were often thought to be ceremonial or burial sites and are underground structures. Why were the standing stones erected? What were they used for? There are many many theories. Were they like Stone Henge and used as calendar and maps for the stars?

What do you think they were used for?

For my first book in The Hussies™ series, Danu, The Beginning, I use henges as safety structures the villagers build to protect themselves from dragon attacks.

Gettin' Naughty - Transforming The Bedroom Into A Love Nest

So we’ve discussed toys, role-playing, his hot spots and sexual confidence. Now its time to set the mood. Take a walk into the bedroom and have a look around. How does the room look and feel? Come up with one word to describe the ambiance.

What was your word? Sexy? Romantic? Intimate?

If not, then its time to do some redecorating! Your bedroom should be pleasing to the senses and have an intimate feel. Here are some ideas for transforming a drab, boring room into a sensual oasis.


The main focus of a bedroom is, of course, the bed. It should be comfortable and inviting. Consider getting new bedding, something luxurious. When thinking sheets, think high thread count. The higher the better. Get yourself a plush Vellux blanket. I love mine. The unique velvety texture feels incredible against bare skin. Make sure the pillows are comfy and clean. Pillows should be replaced every six months. Also, try adding some lush accent pillows in different shapes, sizes and textures.

Colors should be warm and sensual, from the walls to curtains and bedding to decorative accents. You may finally have to give up the lime green lava lamp for something a bit more practical and sexy.

Fragrances play a very powerful role in enhancing romance and sensuality so the bedroom should smell nice. Skip the overly heavy scents and go for light aromas provided by oil diffusers, candles or scented sachets. Occasionally bring in a vase of fresh, fragrant flowers. Cinnamon is an aphrodisiac. Vanilla is familiar, relaxing and welcoming. Peppermint oil is invigorating. Jasmine is sweet and soothing. Gardenia, sandalwood, rose also are sensually seductive scents.

Change the mood of the room by toning down the lighting. Swap out all those 100-watt white bulbs for a lower wattage or pink-toned variety. Set the tone with a small stereo and some sexy music that you both enjoy set to play softly in the background.

For a quick and inexpensive makeover, try a new throw on the bed with coordinating curtains and add a few sensual accent items like scented candles. You can make small changes to freshen things up as seasons change. If you can do so safely without burning the house down, try draping a colored scarf over the lampshade to create a more intimate feel.

Next, open up the nightstand drawer. What’s in there? A collection of miscellaneous junk that’s accumulated over time? It shouldn't be. Here are essentials that should be in your nightstand.
• Sex toys you both enjoy (and fresh batteries)
• A blindfold
• Erotic reading material (Try reading sexy scenes aloud to each other)
• Lube and massage oil (If using condoms choose water-based products)
• Other toys to suit your tastes (A feather, silk scarves, maybe a set of restraints—whatever turns you on.)

Oh, and one of the most important things. Get the TV out of the bedroom! When in the bedroom, you want his attention on you, not the game.

A few minor adjustments can turn a dull bedroom into a passionate retreat. The most important thing to remember is do what feels right. Go with the fabrics, textures, colors, sounds and scents that tune you in and turn you on.

Humpin' For Release!

Man do these books look yummy. How is a hussy supposed to choose?

Which ones are you buying this week? Why? Have you read this author before, or is she new to you? Did you glom the book this afternoon in one sitting, or is it in your TBR pile?

What attracted you to the story -- the plot, the genre, the totally hawt cover model?

To the authors of the new releases, come on in and jump and shout. This is your day!

Let the humpin' commence!

Fantasies ....

The truth is we've all had sexual fantasies, men and women alike. It's a healthy, normal part of our sexuality. Some are drawn from past experience and others simply products of the imagination. Some are taboo and some quite vanilla. My question was, are there common themes to our erotic imaginings? I did a bit of research and discovered that interestingly, there are common threads. Below is the top ten sexual fantasy list.

Number 10: Strangers in the Night
Hooking up with a mystery man for a night of wild uninhibited sex hits the list at Number 10. This is a kind of safety fantasy because in this delightful scenario you can be as loose or kinky as you want without being judged. After all, you'll never see the seductive stranger again, so release that sexual predator inside or play the delicate flower being introduced into the dark thrills of bondage.

Number 9: Fun in numbers
Not all of this type of fantasy has actual sex acts involved. Some women dig the idea of group sex, for others it's just the idea of being nude in front of a group of people.

Number 8: Who's your Mama?
Women really seem to get off on the idea of dominating men and in articles and forums, the most popular things they fantasy of doing are: Spanking him, making him beg for what he wants, ordering him to perform sexual acts and sucking on phallic objects - even the heels of their stilettos.

Number 7: A Star is born
A lot of women fantasize about engaging in sex in front of an audience or a video camera. Does the excitement of performing give them feelings of empowerment or ideas of titillating others?

Number 6: Yes, Master
The slave/master fantasies vary. For some women this means surrendering to the demands of a dominate man. For others it's a scenario where they resist and have to be overcome and ravaged.

Number Five: Here pussy pussy
Yeah, you probably saw this one coming a mile away. Quite a lot of women fantasize about getting it on with another woman. More often than not while their man sits and watches. Some like the idea of the man joining in. Others prefer the idea of him just getting horny over it.

Number Four: I'm Your Private Dancer
A lot of women, particularly professionals in business, fantasize about being strippers, performing that oh-so-sexy lap dance for a mystery man and getting his juices flowing for her. Others take it a further and imagine being prostitutes, hired sex gals that have the ability to turn a man into a quivering pile of need with her extraordinary skills.

Number Three: Double your Pleasure
Yep, just like our male counterparts, we fantasize about having two men at once. Some want a soft and gentle erotic scene and others want to crank it up to a porno-like sex free for all. There's a split between women who imagine being a goddess of love and worshipped by the men, their focus just on getting her off, and those who want to be bond, gagged and penetrated in the vagina and anus at the same time.

Number Two: Put me on a Jock Strap and call me Charlie
This one surprised me but one of THE most popular fantasies is of being a man for a night. Dressing up and acting like a man, down to the strap-on penis.

Number One: Like a Virgin
Although I'm hesitant to even type the words "rape fantasy", that's exactly what women call it. They get off on the idea of playing the naive innocent virgin who gets taken advantage of by the predatory man, forced into sex.

Well, nowhere did I find my favorite fantasy - (involving a hunky cowboy and a saddle), but as the saying goes, whatever floats your boat. Fantasies are, after all, as individual as the person. Whatever your fantasy, it's normal to have them. But a word of warning. Fantasies ARE so good because they ARE fantasies. When we try to translate them into reality, they normally fall short of the mark. But then, would we really have it any other way?

This is Ciana for the Hussies, saying remember, we all have fantasies. Enjoy :)

The Monday Workout

We all know a workout is good. Sadly, for a lot of us, the spirit is willing but the flesh is deplorably weak. So here’s my suggestion to get your Monday off to a healthy start.

Step 1. Go out on Sunday and buy one of those “Look Three Sizes Slimmer” undergarments.

Step 2. After your Monday shower, remove it from the package. It will look like something resulting from the cross-breeding of an Ace bandage with a bag of elastic bands. Don’t worry, this is how it’s supposed to look.

Step 3. Put it on.

Here’s the workout part. First, put both feet through the leg holes. Yes, they are there, they look like funnels, but if you wiggle your toes you’ll find the right places sooner or later. Remove the bits that catch on your toenails and work until both bare feet are actually touching the floor. Now bend at the knees, grasp the garment at both sides and try to stand up, drawing it with you.

Try again. And again - until you can actually achieve something resembling a vertical stance. (Feel the burn in your thighs? Good.) You’re hobbled, so remember staggering uses calories. Grab the towel and make sure every part of your lower body is completely dry. Any moisture will double your workout - it’s up to you if you want to sweat that much. Now ease upward once more, remembering that this is supposed to reach your crotch at some point during the exercise session. How long this will take is a function of your leg length multiplied by your patience limitations minus the cling factor of the rubber along your thighs.

Breathe here. Holding your breath isn’t recommended until you’ve actually reached the crotch. Now you can suck it in because it has to go over your stomach and continue upward until it’s somewhere close to the base of your bra. Yes, it will stretch that far. But it needs encouragement. You can now use your biceps, triceps, forceps or whatever ceps will get the job done.

Breathe again. Blue isn’t your color at this time of day.

Now close your eyes and envision a Sumo wrestler readying himself for a fight. Lift one leg high in the air at an angle of ninety degrees to your body, stretch it and thump it down onto the floor. Repeat with the other leg and continue until you’re sort of wearing the entire thing and most of it is almost where it’s supposed to be. Wiggling is good (uses the glutes) and removes the wedgie. You’re now up to about a thousand workout calories - good going. If you’re lucky, this will end the first session. If not, continue wiggling, stomping (and cursing) until you’re encased in a lovingly clinging wrap of engineered slimming bliss.

The workout will continue to keep your metabolism high during the day as you fidget to roll the waistband back up around your torso, remove the bits stuck in your butt and correct the placement of the thigh bands. Going to the bathroom more than once while wearing this garment will result in an additional metabolic burn of approximately five hundred calories - depending on the size of the stall and how badly you have to go.

Does it work? Well, the first two sizes you sweat off while attempting to put the darn thing ON. The third? Personally, I didn’t notice my behind “lifted and shaped”, but then again I don’t look at my ass that much. (Too depressing.) I could, however, zip up my jeans without lying down and nearing asphyxiation. Definitely a plus.

It’s not a ten-mile run, of course. Or even twenty minutes on the treadmill. But for those of us who think running is cruelty to breasts, and the treadmill nothing but an endless road to nowhere - well hell! We’ll take the elastic torture garment regime any day. Now where did I put my shoehorn? I have to take it OFF tonight…

Next week: A look at the physics behind the “reed” in flutes and its usefulness as applied to farting a middle C while wearing a thong.

The Joy of Flirting

I woke up today thinking about the funThe Hussies had on the Ellora's Cave Chat yesterday. Lots of laughs, some great excerpts to read, and naturally some naughty comments.

One of the topics that Sally brought up was flirting and how it makes us feel. I thought about that a lot. What's the best feeling I get from flirting? Well, the answer was clear. I like it because I use the art of flirt not to get a date or proposition, but to get a smile or laugh. I tested my flirt ability on the chat, and then later emailed my "flirt" to a few of my male friends. Here's my email:

Subject line: I really need a favor

I know I haven't known you very long and I shouldn't be asking you for this so soon, but I really need it badly.

I haven't had it for a while and I can already feel it going in good and hard and coming out nice and soft.

If you would do this for me no one would ever know.

I am sure you can satisfy my needs and I'd be very grateful if you would.

I am very desperate and I need your help.

You must think by now that I have a lot of nerve but I can feel my tongue wrapping around it and sucking out all the juices until it's very dry.

I am not going to beat around the bush any longer so...

Do you have a piece of gum?

This morning I had responses in my inbox, one fromChase with a UPS tracking number that read "a case of gum is on its way. Lucky for you that you didn't ask your favor in person or you'd have gotten something to nibble on that isn't minty fresh but does last a long long time. Oh, and Ci. This isn't just a flirt - it's a really good tease."

Which goes to show that a good flirt can go a long way. And since there's no harm unless you cross that invisible line, why not indulge? Of course, you may want to temper your flirts a bit ... unless, of course, you happen to need a case of gum :)

This is Ciana for the Hussies saying have a super Sunday, let that inner Hussy out to play and enjoy being the vibrant, flirty woman you are.

Whatever You Do, Aim For The...


• This week is all about being good to yourself. And ladies, with the barrage of images out there telling us we need to fix, pluck, tuck, and suck in, smoothen, straighten, flatten, and lengthen, we all know how hard it can be. But self-confidence in and out of your skin or your bedroom will only get you so far. You need to protect yourself first!
  
  Oh, what’s she rambling about now, this crazy hussy, you groan?
  
  I’m talking about the physical confidence that comes from walking tall after you get off a bus late at night, or getting to a party where there’s already a crowd and a dozen pairs of eyeballs staring and you acting as if it doesn’t make a lick of difference, or listening to your intuition when it’s telling you that creep at the office has a collection of panties stolen from coworkers and he’s after your cottony goodness.
  
  But I digress.
  
  Fact: the vast majority of victims of violent crimes are women. Sad but true.
  
  But how do I acquire that sort of self-confidence, you wonder? Well, I’m glad you asked! I’ve built a list of tips to keep your inner (and outer) Hussy safe and feeling fresh. Oops, sorry, wrong tip.
  
  In no order whatsoever except that they look good with them fancy little bullets on the side, Nathalie’s tips to a safe Hussy are:

• Get a chainsaw. Don’t forget the fuel, baby...nothing worse than running out when you’re about to let a robber know that, no, not only can he NOT get your purse, he stands to lose any part of himself that touches you too.


• Not into power tools? No problem. Machetes make excellent attitude adjustors.


• Don’t let the baddie take you to the second location. You hear that one everywhere, but it’s for realz...you pull a passive resistance move on him and drop to the ground. No way the baddie can pick you up, work the car door, and keep an eye on both your hands, which by now should be busy rearranging his family jewels.


• Say no. Sounds simple? How many women you know who can say “no” without anything else tagged to it? We always want to say why, and how come, and maybe next time. Practice it. Say NO. Although a well-placed “Just what you think you’re doing, Tarzan?! Hell NO!” works just as well.


• That you’re a petite femme or a Valkyrie, in this instance, size doesn’t matter. If you walk like you mean business and you project self-confidence, chances are, baddies will pick on someone else. Don’t look like a victim.


• Baddies can be chicks, too. Next time one gets in your face, offer her new batteries for her playthings, because *obviously* she needs it.


• Follow your gut.

In the words of personal security specialist and author, Gavin de Becker, “When free of judgment, we inherently respect the intuition of others. Sensing that someone else is in that special state of assessing hazard, we are alerted, just as when we see the cat or dog awaken suddenly from a nap and stare into a dark hallway.”

And in my own humbler, less eloquent, or even coherent, words, “Remember: whatever you do, aim for the (eye)balls.”

Paranormal Self-Confidence 101

Growing up without validation that the spooky things I was seeing meant I had to learn self-validation. This seems to be a recurring theme for those involved in the paranormal. When you are chosen, that's it. There's no way out. You may deny it, try to. You may turn a blind eye to it, try to. You may even rebel against it...try to. But in the end, like it or not, you are an active participant.

So there ultimately comes that moment when we are forced to embrace our abilities.

Reconciling personal reality to what I was told was reality proved a must if I wished to have any kind of peace in life. It required self-acceptance and with that embracing of self came confidence. But a different kind of confidence than that already discussed this week. Self-confidence that I could trust myself and understand the images and information I was receiving. And it proved to be one of the biggest tests yet in believing in myself.

Testing seems to be the burden of the initiate and yet, with each new level I reach in understanding there is another test and another. This seems to be the main commonality with all seers, mediums, clairvoyants... whatever tag you wish to put to what the modern world calls "psychic".

Ultimately, there's only one way to gain self and that's to claim it all. Standing up and facing those things that go bump in the night brings freedom. With that freedom is the self-realization of exerting free will, and free will rules all things paranormal. If it is against your free will, then you have the power and the right to reject it and send it away.

This realization was an epiphany for me and the moment I began to deal with all things paranormal on my terms (to a large degree). The frightening role of being victimized by entities and paranormal events ended and fear evaporated. I was now free to forge relationships with those entities of the light.

I'll be discussing more about my personal journey and adventures into the paranormal on Melissa Alvarez's talk radio show today at 11 am EST. You can email or call in with your questions.

Gettin' Naughty - Sexual Confidence

Following along with the theme Sahara and Mary have going, I decided to discuss sexual self-confidence this week. It’s during intimate moments when women feel the most vulnerable and unsure of themselves. Unfortunately, a lack of sexual self-confidence greatly affects achieving sexual satisfaction.

When a relationship reaches the point of becoming sexually intimate is not the time to start worrying about your body hang ups and desirability. If he wasn’t attracted to you and there was no chemistry, you wouldn’t have made it this far so forget about rejection or failure. Now you have to relax about your body and have fun. And let me tell you ladies, women who are secure in their prowess have one heck of a lot of fun!

When you have sexual self-confidence it’s easier to relax and fully enjoy the experience. Both your body and mind are active participants instead of letting your thoughts be distracted by perceived faults. Allowing your mind focus on pleasure is guaranteed to bring more of it your way, and most of us would love to have more pleasure in our sex lives.

By now you are probably wondering how long and what effort is required to shed those sexual insecurities. There is no magic spell to grant you sexual confidence, but the good news is its something you can give yourself. No waiting, you can have it right now since it’s a matter of changing how you think.

According to Dr. Phil in an article written for O Magazine, sexual confidence is not about having a great body. In fact, he says that older women are more sexually confident due to the benefit of experience. I really liked what Dr. Phil has to say about pleasure. “It's not selfish in a sexual situation to please yourself. Think about it—what greater gift could you give your partner than to have a really good time? If you're having fun, your partner is going to have fun. And that's not a license for selfishness; it's a recognition that you can't give away what you don't have yourself.”

Here’s an important thing to remember. Your sexual confidence cannot be given to you by a lover. The distraction of focusing too much on your lover can erode your confidence. Don’t let other people define your sense of self. Get to know your body and what trips your trigger. This will lead to more pleasure and confidence.

Sexual confidence is more about power generated by liking and accepting yourself than it is about sex. Here’s another great tip from Dr. Phil. “A woman who is open-minded, wants to have fun, and isn't counting on getting an engagement ring within minutes of meeting a man has an ease about her that translates as power. By contrast, one who looks like she's on the prowl for Mr. Right and is deafened by the ticking of her biological clock sends a totally different message. And as any guy will tell you, that message is: Run! But if you're comfortable and genuinely happy, others sense it and want it. Women who like where they are in their lives exude an assurance that makes for some very positive vibes in the bedroom.”

How do you get some of this elusive power for yourself? First, take a long, hard look at how you see yourself. Are you comfortable with your body? Feel good about yourself and your life? This is another instance where that self-defeating internal dialogue has to be altered. Changing your focus to positive and empowering thoughts will increase your self-assurance. Figure out how to accept yourself. Then take a look at your nonverbal language. What is your body saying about you? How do you walk into a room? Is your head held high and your posture good? Do you make eye contact? All of these factors affect vibes you’re putting out.

Experiment—get familiar and comfortable with your body and learn to shed those inhibitions. Buy some sexy lingerie that makes you feel good. You have to identify what you like and dislike, then express it. You have to be able to tell him what you need to feel good. Also, figure out what gets you in the mood. I recommend reading a hot and steamy book then just let go. You can’t be uptight and sexy at the same time—the two don’t go together.

Discover the sexual power of being a woman and enjoy it. Nothing will get him heated up more than your sexual confidence.

Check out this video, How to Get Sexual Confidence. Both the women say “like” way too much, but still manage to offer some good advice.

Humpin' For Release!

Now here's some Halloween eye candy! I'd take either tricks or treats from these hunks any day. But wait. There's a story inside them too, you say? Mind candy too? What more can a hussy ask?

Which ones will you be eating, er, reading today?

Hussy Charm School: Find Your Groupies

Okay class, it's that time again. Hussy Charm School. Since our last meeting I hope you've been groovin' and shakin' to your hottest, most inspirational tunes. Now comes is the next step in bringing out our inner hussy and it's a doozy.

Step #2 - Believe In Yourself

Those three little words have the power to stop a woman right in her tracks. We're always looking at our bodies. It's too fat, too skinny, too droopy, too wiggly... Our hair never does what we want it to do. (Trust me, this is one hair-stupid hussy, which is why I got it cut off again. Wash and go! Whee!).

So we'll probably spend quite a few weeks on this lesson, but that's okay. It's an important one. This week's lesson...have a self-esteem buddy.

Now, being a Hussy means loving yourself. But there's nothing wrong with having a good friend to go to when things get you down.

I'm lucky. My self-esteem buddy is also my partner. "If you ever need to know how desirable you are," he says, "just feel this." And then, of course, he guides my hand to the appropriate place. Ooh! I'm thinking he likes me. *wink*

See, it's hard work saving the world and being a Hussy. You can be your own best cheerleader, but when you're too tired to rah!rah! then make sure you have a good friend to call. After all, all the best superheroes had groupies. Even Buffy!

You gotta be YOU

Monday mornings! Urgh. You look in the mirror and realize why Sports Illustrated didn't call again this year when filling their swimsuit model quota. It's so not fair that some people have more than their share of gorgeousness while you're stuck staring at the cat - who's staring back with a raised eyebrow and that "If you didn't feed me I probably wouldn't stick around" look.

Okay, well...you've got more in common with the rest of the us than you do with an anorexic swimsuit model who's thrown up everything she ate since she was twelve. Maybe it's time to remember you have a LOT to offer the world just as long as you can find out exactly what that is. We all have something special, some gift, some skill, some talent that makes us unique. It's just a matter of realizing it on a Monday morning. So I'm offering an inspirational video that I hope will start you thinking positively about yourself. Find those good points, be proud of 'em - and smile! That's the best way to start off this particular day!!! (And congrats to whoever made this video - it really gets the point across!!! LMAO)

Always on Sunday ... and sometimes twice

Recently I caught up with an old friend, Emma Trent. It's been a while since I last saw Emma. In fact, I'd started to think she'd dropped off the face of the planet. Then, to my surprise, I got a call from her, inviting me to come for a weekend to a tropical resort. Naturally I jumped at the chance. What I found, when I arrived, was far from what and who I expected - namely Alex Master. Vampire.

Now as a true-blue Hussy, I'm here to tell you that Alex Masters easily qualifies for "every woman's fantasy." I have to admit to feeling a little envious of my lucky friend Emma. And you will too, when you meet Alex. So, let me share a little of what I've learned about him with you.

Alex, can you tell me what it means when a vampire inhabits the dreams of a human?

Well, it's not typically done intentionally, if that's what you're asking. It's a sign of destined souls uniting in that astral sphere and a sign of things to come in the physical realm, depending on the content of the dream. If it is sexual then they shall be lovers. If they are fighting, then they shall be enemies.

Hmmm, okay it's obvious that Emma's dreams fall into the sexual category. So, Alex, do vampires ever dream about humans? Are your dreams as erotic as ours?

I dreamed about Emma, but didn't know she was human and assumed she was vampire. Dreams for a vampire are more real than those of a human. Just because we dream of someone or inhabit their dreams doesn't necessarily mean they recall the visitation. Emma did though.

Lucky gal. Can you tell me what drives a vampire wild with passion?

That human scent will do it every time. The scent of fear will truly make a vampire forget everything else, oh you meant sexual passion. Well, that will do it too if the human is a consenting adult, then oftentimes the lover will allow a small taste, but it takes a very discipline vamp to refrain and only take a tiny taste.

What went through your head the first time you saw Emma?

Here was the woman I've been dreaming about. I didn't expect her to arrive in the physical plane so quickly. And, I expected her to be vampire, not human. I'd not seen her face in my dreams, but I knew her body and I definitely recognized her voluptuous body.

What is it about Emma that makes her so different from other human women?

Everything. Her kisses. The way she tastes. Her scent is so sweet and exotic, and Emma is a nurturer. She'll make a wonderful mother some day.

So, Alex, do you think vampire women are more sexy than human women? Do they make better or worse lovers?

I think vampire females acclimate to a vampiric relationship easier than human women for obvious reasons, but to compare vampire to human is like comparing apples to oranges. Each has her own special juicy attributes. It's all about the woman and her essence.

What's your favorite vampire seduction technique?

With Emma, it was wining and dining her in a secret hideaway I'd built just for the woman in my dreams. I flew over the ocean and dipped my beloved into the water on the way to our love nest. It was very arousing foreplay especially since there was a full moon.

Oh yumm. If a woman wanted to mate with a vampire could she expect fidelity?

Could she with a human mate? I can say my love for Emma, means I shall always be faithful to her and I know she will be to me. Vampiric love is very different from human love since we live forever. So does our love and the emotions associated with it.

Now that's romantic. Emma, you lucky gal. Alex, how did you feel when Emma was in danger of being "tasted" by another vampire?

My first concern was for her safety. After that, I was in a rage and had I not been trying to keep the fact she was human from leaking out, I'd have given him a good beating, even though he was a guest.

Ah, so chivalry DOES live. Will there be any more juicy stories about you coming our way?

I've been asked, but so far I can't get Emma out of the bed long enough to go on any adventures outside of VBR.

Well honey, now that I've met you I can't blame her. Thanks Alex for allowing me to visit you and Emma here. And keep me in mind if you discover you have a twin out there somewhere.

Yes, readers, Alex is definitely a man worth a gal's fantasy. And if you want to know more about him, then hurry on over to Ellora's Cave and purchase a copy of Last Resort by our own Sally Painter. Trust me, you'll soon be having naughty dreams of this delicious vampire!

This is Ciana for the Hussies saying enjoy the fantasy!! I know I'm going to as I reread this book. Hey, what can I say ... sometimes a gal needs it twice on Sunday!

Sizzling, Seductive and Available Now

If you haven't checked out the latest releases from the Hussies, here's your chance.

Treaty of Seduction by Mary Winter

Zaldivar's queen has agreed to an alliance with the Concordance, a governing body, in order to gain new technology for her people. As loyalties are divided, the once-peaceful planet now faces war at the hand of insurgents.

Wishing to restore peace, High Priestess Tyranna Eairstar reluctantly agrees to a marriage with a Concordance officer. Tyranna's long-forgotten lust awakens the moment she meets her virile husband-to-be — but can she give her heart to him when she's given her life in service to the goddess?

Tyranna's intelligence, intensity and willowy body are welcome surprises for Major Trace Drakkal. The very sight of her makes him hard, and her body responds willingly. But Trace must convince her she can have both faith and love, while assuring her people the Concordance wishes to help, not harm.An ancient sexual ritual might be enough to convince Zaldivar and Tyranna that change can be a good thing.

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Tease By Nathalie Gray

Gentlemen Inc., Book One

Popular member of Gentlemen Inc., a global all-male escort agency, Archer has a week to transform overachiever police officer "Calamity Joan" into an exotic dancer. Morality squad undercover cop Joan Blair has a week to infiltrate a private club controlled by Montreal's organized crime and catch a world-renowned crook.

Together, Joan and Archer have a week to discover what makes the other tick, what sets their blood to boiling, their body quivering, their heartbeat racing. A handful of days to gauge and tease the other. A fistful of nights spent white-knuckled through a carnal rush that will leave them on a precipice where a mere frisson can tilt the scales and a look melt a woman's heart…or break it in a thousand shards.

A week to test each other's limits.

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Hot in the Saddle - Scout 'n' Cole
By Ciana Stone

Book 3 in the Hot in the Saddle series

Cole had no trouble attracting women. The Russell men were all blessed physically, and Cole was no exception. However, finding a woman who could match his passion for the wilderness as well as ignite passions of a different kind in his life was the problem.

Scout Windrider knew that love wasn't for her. She'd yet to encounter a man who took her breath away, and figured it was just as well. What man would want to hook up with a woman who spent most of her life in the wild, tracking mountain lions

Neither of them could have foreseen being paired in a no-kill hunt turned deadly that would force them to confront an explosive attraction hot enough to consume them with its heat. Faced with a murderous madman intent on exacting revenge against the Windrider family, Scout and Cole take a leap of faith with each other, and discover something relegated to myth and legend prove to be true, that will touch their lives in a way that will change them forever.

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A RUMPOLOGIST

Meet a Rumpologist. An ancient nearly lost artform. Seriously.

What is a rumpologist?

It's Psychic Sam, aka Sandra Amos.

But what exactly is her talent? Well, among other psychic and clairvoyant abilities, Sandra is known as the woman who reads bottoms...bums...aka asses.

I first saw Sam on Ripley's Believe It or Not and was fascinated by this woman's unique talent. In fact, she has become a huge hit in the UK after she accurately predicted the winner of an English $60,000 giveaway!

Sam charges $45 for a cheeky reading and has a 98% accuracy rate! She reads the right buttock to tell you about your past and the left cheek is your future! She did say on the show that some men's arses are difficult to read and I'm sure you can figure out the why behind that.

You can listen to Sam on a UK radio talk show.

Gettin' Naughty - His Hot Spots

You man’s body has many hot spots guaranteed to make him moan and shiver when stimulated. Take the time and find his sexual trigger points and you’ll bring both of you to new heights of pleasure. Touching and teasing these supersensitive, nerve-rich areas in just the right way will turn him on, fire him up, and set him off with a powerful blast. Here’s a few feel good zones you may not be aware of but should be!

Neck – We all know the sides of the neck are sensitive, but a major hot spot for men is on the front of the neck at the thyroid gland (located just beneath the Adam’s apple). Have your lover lift his chin and start with the hollow at the base of his neck. Flatten your tongue out and lick upward until you reach his Adam’s apple, then dip down just beneath it. Massage this area with your tongue in wide circular motions. Be prepared for the resulting frenzied need this action will spark.

Fingers – Even if he works with his hands and has tough, calloused skin, the tender flesh between his fingers and on the pads is very sensitive. Suck a finger into your mouth, twirl your tongue around the digit, slide your lips up and down its length. Men are very visual creatures and he’ll get the added benefit of picturing receiving the same attention to his cock. This will quickly get him hard, ready and aching.

Lips – Kissing his lips may seem obvious, but an often overlooked trigger point is the outer curve of his lower lip where it meets his chin. Give this a try the next time you kiss him and send your lover strait into make-out bliss. Pull his lower lip into your mouth and hold it there with light suction. Now run the tip of your tongue up and down right beneath his lip. This move will send delicious electric currents straight to his cock.

Nipples – Some men love to have their nipples manipulated, while others are highly sensitive and can’t stand it. The only way to find out is through exploration. Start with soft strokes of fingertips. Try building the sensations slowly by swirling your tongue in a wide circle around his areola, decreasing the size of the circle gradually. When you reach the center, flick his nipple with your tongue then add a gentle nip with your teeth.

F-spot – The frenelum is a Y shaped elastic band of tissue under the glans of the penis. With your lover lying on his back and his erection rising over his abdomen, the Y will be inverted. It starts on the crown and extends down onto the shaft. Stimulate the f-spot by rapidly flicking the tip of your tongue against it and lick around the crown. Combine this with simultaneous stroking of his shaft and you’ll bring him to an explosive climax.

Perineum – Some men have hang-ups about their backdoor so don’t be offended if he doesn’t appreciate attention to this area. Massaging this shallow, nerve-rich grove located between his scrotum and anus will give him great enjoyment by providing external stimulation to his prostrate gland. Also simply applying steady pressure with your lips or tongue will bring him intense pleasure.

Testicles – The crease extending from top to bottom between his testicles is extraordinarily responsive. Cradle and massage his scrotum in one hand and run two fingers of the other up and down this wrinkle. The dual stimulation will rev his engine.

P-spot – Run a dampened finger or your tongue around the rim of his anus. It will be quickly obvious if he enjoys the stimulation and is receptive to more. If so, here’s how to locate his prostrate gland. With him lying on his back and your palm facing up, insert a well-lubricated finger into his rectum. Follow the upper margin of his canal until you locate the walnut-sized gland. Using a “come-hither” motion of the finger, stroke this amazing spot sure to trigger a powerful release.

Let your inner hussy out and keep your man happy by tripping his trigger. Take the bordeome out of the bedroom.

Humpin' For Release!

Holy Hot Pants, Hussies! Have you ever seen as delightful a fall feast as these Hump Day hunks? And look! One of our own Hussies is releasin' even as we speak! Nathalie, come on in and give us a Tease.

*fanning self*

Who's buying what today? HOW did you decide? I don't think I ever saw a bunch of more tempting titles side-by-side. Thank goodness a few of them are Quickies -- it's like getting two for the price of one.

When is a Monday NOT a Monday?

Trick question! It’s always Monday, but sometimes it’s not really a Monday. Today is a good example. For some of us here in the States, it’s Columbus Day - a holiday. (And how much do you wanna bet Columbus chucked off at least three of his crew for endlessly asking “Hey, Chris, are we there yet?”)

So for you guys getting an extra lie-in, congrats! Enjoy it! Do whatever you do on a holiday Monday. Tuesday’s comin’! LOL

For those of you stuck with an ordinary Monday and hating it, just remember - it COULD be worse. Since a picture’s worth a thousand words, I figured I’d simply put in the one below. Can you imagine looking out your window on a Monday morning and seeing THIS????



You see? It could be worse!! A LOT worse. Try explaining THIS to anyone without blushing!

Have a Hussy Monday!

Jammin' with Jamo

You've probably seen him in bodybuilding magazines becasue Jamo Nessar is a IFBB Pro Bodybuilder. Orignally from Algeria, Jamo has circled the globe and now lives in LA.

Much more that merely glorious muscle (and he has that in spades), Jamo speaks French, English and Arabic and holds a degree in science and biology. He holds to what he calls a simple philisophy - namely "What you see is what you get". (Okay, dangerous thing to say to a hussy gal who loves hard bodies!)

Retired from pro bodybuilding, Jamo now devotes his time to teaching people about training and supplementation. (Yes retired at 38). Now, personally, I have to tell you that Vin Diesel has always been a fav of mine, but Jamo knocks him in the dirt baby. He has that intense "bad boy" thing going that makes my engines rev.

I caught up with Jamo (or should I say lassoed him) and asked him to share a little time, giving this hussy an inside scoop on the guy inside all those glorious muscles and he was nice enough to agree.

Ci: Jamo, Could you describe yourself in one paragraph.

Jamo: Driven , passionate, and very Soft inside even though People think I'm Intense when they notice me the first time ..one more thing The biggest GOOF and I love it- lol

Ci: Well there is an energetic intensity about you, honey. And I say that in a very good way :) So, tell us, what's your biggest passion?

Jamo: Creativity and making things come to life to make others happy .

Ci: Interesting and noble. (making a note for self...creative? Surely a room full of hussies who write qualify for that, right?) So, Jamo, what makes a woman sexy to you?

Jamo: Drive, independance, security and of course eyes and a nice round bubble butt.

Ci: (okay, drive, independence and security - got that. But striking out like mad on the bubble butt. Hmmmm, wonder if he has training tips for that?) What's your favorite music to make love to?

Jamo: Sade

Ci: (Humming Smooth Operator by Sade) Hmmmm, so tell me, how would you feel if one of the writers in The Hussies group modeled a hero in one of her books after you?

Jamo: I will thank her and I will hope whatever she writes in her Books there will be a part there where I'm eating a Dozen krispy kreme doughnuts without taking a breather- lol

Ci: LMAO - honey every women who's ever dieted is with you on that one. (Matter of fact, now I've got a huge craving for one of those delectable bites of "now you have to run five more miles" treats). So, Jamo, if a hero was modeled after you, what would be his most appealing trait and what kind of lover would he be?
Jamo: HMMMMM... He would be a leader that will take control and protect his princess , serve her in a way that she can't help it but love him more every day because he feeds from that love to do sweet things for her . He would be the kind of lover that whatever the situtation , he will please her without asking questions ..Love can be a beautifull and amazing when SOULS ARE LOCKED IN FOREVER !!!

Ci: (Hussies, is there a way we can bottle this and put it into the water supply cause dayum!!) Jamo, can you share your best "sweet nothing" you'd whisper in my ear if we were lovers?

Jamo: YOU SURE YOU WANNA HEAR THAT?

Ci: (batting eyelashes innocently - okay, not that innocently) Absolutely. Lay it on me big boy.

Jamo: lol OK ..here it goes ...we will be both naked facing each other looking into each other eyes and then I would lean forward and ask you gently to close your eyes and say something like this ..."Babe I want you to get close to my neck and smell my skin."

Once you do that.I would say "now , babe I want you to put your lips there ..but you're not allowed to kiss me."

When you did that I would say,"Now I want you to put your teeth there but you are not allowed to bite me."

Next I will say "I want you to put your tongue on my chest but your not allowed to lick me"

I think I won't keep going or we will be here for days- lol.

Ci: (Snapping out of fantasy and wiping drool from face) Huh, what? Oh, that's okay, I have time. At a sexy chuckle and wag of the finger from Jamo in a "naughty hussy" gesture, I reluctantly move on. Okay, then how about this? If we were sitting in the moonlight, what music would be playing that you'd pick specifically to set the mood?

Jamo: Sade or something from the Cafe del mar CD Collection

Ci: (Moving into the chorus of Smooth Operator) I can dig it. So, Jamo, where can we learn more about you or is there anything you'd like our readers to know about you?

Jamo: All i can say is I am who I am because of a mother that told me how to respect woman and be good to them. I live every day being the best I can be and try to create stuff that help people all over the world. I never care where you from or what you do. As long far as you respect me and you have a good heart you're my friend.

I created www.myfittribe.com a fitness community based site to show the world what real fitness and training is all about by making it real and Free to every one to benefit from . YOu get to see the real me with my team doing stuff that you will never see anywhere else,,and guess what , It's all FUN and honest , if you like reality TV, myfittribe.com is Reality training !!

Ci: (Thanks to Jamo's Mom!!) Jamo, thanks so much for spending some time with me and doing this little interview. It goes without saying that you're one of the most beautiful men I've ever known - body and soul, and I'll continue to be your biggest fan.

And kudos to you for handling the questions with such grace - and naughtiness :)

Jamo: Ci, you know I never take offense to anything, Trust me it takes a lot to offend me ... Plus I"m easy you don't have to get me drunk( lol).

Ci: Woo hoooo! My kind of man. Again, Jamo, thanks a ton. And thanks to our readers. We love sharing with you and hope you'll visit again soon. Do check out Jamo's site, for really good training advice (and get to see more of Jamo).

This is Ciana for the Hussies. Until next time, remember guys ... if you want to heep your own hussy happy, follow the advice of Elvis when he sang ...A little more bite and a little less bark - A little less fight and a little more spark. Close your mouth and open up your heart and baby satisfy me!